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A Beginner’s Guide to Bondage: Handcuffs and Restraints

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When you have decided between the two of you that you would like to try some light bondage, often the first thing you think about is whether you will need any special equipment. To start with, you only need to try out with a spare scarf or dressing gown cord, rather than spending money. After all what would happen if you didn’t really like bondage once you had tried it?

But if you decide that you do like bondage and you are going to make it a regular part of your sexual repertoire, then you will probably consider buying some actual handcuffs or other restraints. The beauty of buying proper handcuffs is that you will really feel as if you are playing a proper part; it starts to feel more serious, and less of a play-thing. One thing I would definitely recommend however is that you always make sure that you have two sets of keys to the handcuffs. There is nothing worse than losing a set of keys and having to make that embarrassing call to the emergency services! Or worse still, having to go to a fire station to get them cut off! Luckily, most of the play handcuffs used in bondage have a safety release to help in this situation.

If you only have one set of handcuffs and would like to try restraining the ankles as well, then you could still utilize dressing gown cords, always making sure that you have a pair of scissors to hand just in case you are unable to undo the knots. It may be that you tied them loosely enough to begin with, but once you have got into the role of punishment, if your partner tends to thrash around a lot, the knots can become tighter and so make sure that they can be cut off if necessary.

A wonderful way of starting out with bondage is to also use a blindfold or something else that will restrict the vision. This will ensure that the one receiving the ‘punishment’ will not know what is going to happen next and this is all a part of the excitement. Let’s assume that the female is the one who is ‘receiving’ for this first time. Get her to kneel on the bed on all fours and then attach her wrists and ankles to the ends of the bed. Blindfold her, (again a scarf will do if you don’t have a blindfold.)

Instead of starting with punishment, (which is not what this is all about) experiment with different sensations, such as silk, feathers and leather. Trail each of them down her back in turn, taking the time in between to maybe give a little, short smack to the buttocks with the flat of your hand. Alternate the smack with a gentle stroke of her genitals and she will literally be so overcome with not knowing what to expect that she will experience a very powerful orgasm when you decide the time is right for her to so.

And that is the point…you decide when she will be allowed to cum. And don’t forget to make sure she says ‘thank you’ as well; it’s all part of the role play you will be starting to enjoy.

Next time, I will go further into the role of spanking within bondage, and how you can enjoy it without causing unnecessary pain.