My cart

Close

A Beginner’s Guide to Bondage: Rope Knots

As we have mentioned in past posts, good communication is the key to any successful relationship and is even more crucial when you enter into the world of bondage. Never be afraid to tell your partner if you don’t want to try something new and there should be no problems, providing that they have sufficient respect for your boundaries. And if they don’t…do you really want them to be practicing bondage on you? However, there will be occasions when you have agreed to try something and then realize that you don’t like it once it’s started; again, use your safe word and all will be fine.

While handcuffs are fun to begin with, you will probably find that as time goes on you would like to become more adventurous and want to know how to properly tie someone up. This is when you might need a little help. Knots used in bondage need to be able to be untied quickly in case of emergency and therefore certain knots and materials are more suited than others.

The best material to be used for bondage would be thick cotton or silk, as neither of these slide or move around much once they’ve been tied. However, you need to be aware that kind of rope can be more expensive, so you can simply choose solid-braid nylon rope available from many hardware stores. The knots, (crucially) will still be easy to untie, which is the most important thing to consider.

Any knot that you tie during bondage should never be so tight as to cause problems with circulation, so always make sure that you can slip two fingers between the knot and the skin. Do not tie knots around anyone’s throat and always have to hand some flat-edged medical scissors which would not cause damage to the skin if you needed to quickly remove the rope.

Don’t try to rush things; part of the excitement of bondage is the uncertainty of not knowing what is coming next, so it is better to take your time and make sure that you are tying knots correctly. If you feel a little embarrassed by needing to check instructions on your phone, then blindfold your lover first, which will enhance their excitement and make you feel less embarrassed.

  • The Square or Reef Knot: This is quite a simple classic to master and only requires for you to place “right over left and then left over right”. It is known as a “square” knot and does not slip. It is useful for using as a cuff that does not overly restrict movement under strain.
  • The French Bowline Knot: This is a great knot for creating hand and ankle cuffs, but is a bit more complicated to tie. The French bowline knot will not cut off circulation and is less risky than other knots. Here are the steps:
    1. Wind the running end several times round the object to be tied, leaving enough running end for one further turn.
    2. Form a loop in the standing end.
    3. Pass this behind the winds in the running end until it projects beyond these.
    4. Form a bight in the standing end and push this through the loop.
    5. Bring the running end behind and through the bight.
    6. Pull on the standing end to pull the bight back through the loop and form the knot.

     

    Above all else, just remember the safety aspect, have medical safety scissors to hand and don’t leave the room, no matter how tempting it may be!