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A Beginner’s Guide to Bondage: Taking it to the Next Level

A Beginners Guide to Bondage Taking it to the Next Level

Many of our blog topics touch on the topic of creating a safe environment during bondage and this post will go a bit deeper on that topic. It is crucial that you have complete and utter trust in each other before you decide to go any further and this is something which should be fully discussed in a frank way, with no embarrassment. After all, if you are too embarrassed to talk about bondage and what it entails, then you really should not be thinking about making a move into what can be a scary and exciting new world.

The first thing you need to discuss is what your safe word or phrase is going to be. You might wonder why you couldn’t just say “Stop”, but that is a word which can be misconstrued in this context. Very often as part of bondage play, the restrained person would say “Stop” when they are being spanked, (or whatever,) when they actually mean “Carry on”. It’s all part of the “game” which is bondage. So if “Stop” doesn’t work, then what does?

I can only suggest that you choose something which is so far removed from what you are doing, that there will be no reason to doubt the meaning in this context. For example, you could say something as simple as “Carrot” and your partner should then stop immediately because the word is so incongruous to what you are actually doing at that time; there is no room for misunderstanding. So choose, and agree on whatever your safe word is going to be and stick to it!

Bondage is very often practiced with a view to moving onto other restraints as well, such as handcuffs and ankle restraints. Words of caution here; NEVER leave the person who is restrained by themselves in a room. This could prove to be extremely dangerous. You have to think of the worst case scenario, (which hopefully will never happen,) but what if they were to feel faint or dizzy, or needed something simple like a bathroom visit and you were not there to free them? Just don’t do it!

Always make sure that you have at least 2 sets of keys to any handcuffs (and keep them close to hand) as there is nothing more embarrassing than having to make a call to the emergency services when your lover is attached naked to the bed and you cannot find the keys! And while on the topic of emergency services, please be extremely careful about any insertions (!) you might want to make to someone who is restrained. Many an ER have had to listen to stories of people who happened to have been cleaning the house naked and “fallen” onto a zucchini!

In other words, if you want to have some fun and “play” with food in this way, ask permission first, make sure that whatever the item is, it is well-lubricated and if something doesn’t appear to fit…don’t force the issue!

Happy playing friends!