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A Beginner’s Guide to Bondage: Using a Flogger

I’m so glad you are still with me on this journey toward gaining a more satisfying and exciting sex life. It does take courage to admit that you would like for things to be a little different and if you have come this far, then the chances are that you are also looking for some new items for your toy box, and so today we are going to take a look at using a flogger, what it does and where you can buy one from.

If you are still unsure and wondering “what is a flogger”? It’s what used to be known as, (and sometimes still is,) a cat-o’-nine-tails. In other words, it is a whip with usually a long handle and several strands of different material attached, (leather, rubber or even chain are all commonly used.) The thinner the strips of material are, then generally the more ‘stingy’ they will feel, so it is important to be very aware of this when making your choice. For beginners I would not recommend going for a flogger with very thin strips as it could cause more pain than you were intending.

The next thing to be careful about is what part of the body you will be using the flogger on. It is very easy to cause quite serious damage to the sub if you are not careful, and ending up in the ER is not part of the plan! So what areas are good to target with a flogger? The upper back on either side of the spine is a good area which stands up well to abuse. The butt is another good area for using a flogger, although you need to be careful of your technique as something called ‘wrapping’ can happen.

Wrapping’ means the tails of the flogger ‘wrap around’ the flesh, such as the arms or the sides of the thighs or breasts, for example, which causes the tips of the strands to strike the flesh in an uncontrollable manner. This has the potential to leave marks and is probably far more painful than you may have thought. Be extremely careful around the breast area also as this is not one which you can flog brutally. It’s possible to cause ongoing and long-term damage to breast tissue, which is highly sensitive in both males and females. If you are going to use the flogger on the breast area then take care not to hit from top to bottom as this can also cause damage to the breast. It’s preferable to use the flogger from side to side or from the bottom, upward.

Try to stick to the butt for flogging as this is an area which is rich with nerve endings and can cause the kind of reaction you are looking for. Stay away from the tailbone, coccyx, however, as this can also cause damage.

Make sure you have a solid agreement set up between you as to how far you are willing to go, and when you start to use a flogger, it is also crucial that you have properly implemented when you will use your safe word.

Check out another related blog post: Beginner’s Guide to Bondage: Whips, and How to