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Finding Out Your Spouse is Watching Porn Without You

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Although men are often stereotyped as being the ones who watch porn, that’s not always true. Have you ever thought about the fact that very often women also watch porn and that it can be a way for them to get themselves back in the “zone” following maybe a period of not feeling as sexy as usual? Whatever the reasons are for watching porn, the fact remains that it is an extremely common pastime, and there is no reason for it to become a problem unless the fact of enjoying a fantasy while watching porn takes over from having an actual sex life in the real world.

Men and women watch porn, and that’s okay. Right, now we have that out of the way, I want you all to be honest with yourself. Do you watch porn with your partner, or is it something which you do in private? Would you be embarrassed if your partner discovered that you had been watching porn in secret? And do you imagine what your spouse would feel like if they were to discover that you had been watching porn? Most often it does tend to be men who watch porn without their partner being present and this can be a problem if the female is self-conscious or has some body issues.

Women do feel differently about their body and see something different in the mirror than their male partners see. I’ve said it many times before, but men often do not even know what cellulite is, never mind what it looks like! All they tend to see when their partner is naked is a voluptuous woman who wants to be naked around them. They will focus on the breasts for sure, but certainly not the fact that they may not be as perky as they once were. And so ladies, I would like you to take this on board, once and for all… Your man does not compare your body with what he sees on the screen. He is well aware that the women on screen are nothing but a fantasy, and he would far rather have you right there in the room with him and enjoying each other’s body than some fantasy on-screen.

So if your man watches porn without you, it’s not the fact that he somehow thinks those women are better in any way, it’s just something which a lot of men do. And the sooner you can understand that fact, the better. Don’t get yourself into a negative mindset about this, it’s really not worth it. And why not suggest that you watch porn together now and again? There are lots of porn movies made by female directors these days that are far more suited to the female tastes and not as “harsh” or overtly sexual as ones made by men, for men. You could well be surprised at what a turn on it can be if you decide to watch porn together. It can also give you an excuse to mention something which you’ve always wanted to try. Imagine whispering to him, “Do you think we could do that”?...

Use the fact that lots of men watch porn to your advantage and you could be in for a new chapter in your sex life.

Read our related blog post - Why Watching Porn Together is Healthy for Your Relationship